How to Approach a Colombian Woman
Picture this: you’re at a bar or at a party. You see a woman from across the room and were it not for both human biology and the laws of physics, your jaw would’ve hit the floor. She’s a gorgeous Colombian woman and, at that moment, you want nothing in the world other than to strike up a conversation with her.
There’s one major problem: you’ve got no idea how to make your approach. Maybe you’re not good at talking to Colombian women. Maybe you’re not good at talking to women in general. But you don’t want to blow it. There’s a gorgeous woman right in front of you and you know that you’ve got one chance and you do not want to mess it up.
So what’s a guy supposed to do to minimize the chances of him getting rejected? What should a guy do to secure his romantic future? And what if this hypothetical guy is you and you want to find a Colombian bride?
Things You Shouldn’t Do
Well, for starters, you need to know what not to do. You need to know the mistakes that are going to seal your fate as the male equivalent of a spinster. And what are these mistakes?
Avoid Talking about Certain Aspects of Colombia
With regards to Colombian girls specifically, one of the gravest mistakes a man can make is to reference Colombia’s sordid past. Look, she probably knows all about it and she doesn’t need some foreigner (you) coming up to her and telling her all about it.
For one thing, Colombia’s got more to offer than what happened in the late 20th century. Take coffee, for example. Colombian coffee is known all over the world. Or magical realism. It was invented in Colombia.
You can talk about so many things. Just avoid talking about overly cliché topics and things that may make you look shallow.
Don’t Crash In on Colombian Singles
A mistake that a lot of men make when approaching women in general is coming off too strong. There’s a fine line between being persistent and being creepy and many men do not recognize the instances in which they cross that line.
But when approaching a seemingly single and available woman, you can’t just dive in like she’s expecting her knight in shining armor.
Body language is one of the best indicators that a woman isn’t interested in you. A woman who leans away from you and uses her arms as a shield. If she puts anything between you and herself, like her handbag, then she is not interested in your romantic advances.
While it is true that some Colombian women want to be chased and might play hard to get, they don’t want to be preyed on. So be on the lookout for social cues that’ll indicate disinterest.
Moving on from someone who’s not interested is also practical because by moving on, you can redirect your attention to someone else, someone who might be more open to the prospect of dating you.
Things You SHOULD Do
Now that you know what not to do, here’s what you should do if you want to get a Colombian woman.
Take a Relaxed Approach
One of the biggest mistakes that men make when approaching a woman is getting in their own way. They get too wound up and start visualizing the ways in which she can reject him. They get nervous. They fumble their words. They do the wrong things. Their body language gets out of whack and they come across as romantically unappealing.
There are two ways to look at this. Either the guy is putting out negative energy into the universe so the universe is giving him negative energy in return.
The other way to look at this is like the yips. If you don’t know what this is, it’s a sports term for when an athlete can suddenly lose their ability to perform the most basic task of their sport. It’s often psychological. The athlete gets in their own head and what should be automatic becomes impossible.
So relax and get out of your own head when making your approach. Don’t give yourself the yips for no good reason. Take a breath, get your heartbeat steady, and then make your approach.
Be creative with your compliments
Let’s say you approach a beautiful woman. Do you tell her that she’s beautiful to her face? Sure, you could do that. That’s an obvious compliment. But do you know who else has told her that she’s beautiful? Probably every other guy.
So what is it about you that makes a common, almost generic, compliment so special? Were your words more poetic? Is your voice richer and smoother? Are you more suave than all those other men? If the answer is yes, then you’re good to go and keep doing what you’re doing.
If the answer is no, then you’re going to need to be more creative. Tell her that she has a kind smile. Tell her that her aura feels like home. Or tell her that she looks like she’s smart enough to have an advanced degree. The compliment itself should be something you think of off the cuff. Or tell her that her outfit is stylish.
Find a seemingly innocuous detail about her in the moment and then turn it into a compliment. It’ll instantly set you apart from all the other guys who keep telling her how beautiful she is.
Have a wingman
Say you have a friend with you. Or a coworker. It doesn’t matter who you’ve got with you. All that matters is that they have the ability to speak and like you well enough that they’ll approach a complete stranger so they can introduce you to them.
They can say something like how their friend (you) thinks that she’s cute, or how good of a guy you are. The point is that they’re basically selling you to her. If you’re a curated romance tour, then ask some of the organizers to be your wingman or to make an introduction.
What comes after you’ve made your approach? You set the pace. You ask her out. If she says yes, you take charge and set the time and place. Colombian singles like it when a man knows how to take charge, so take control once you’ve made the approach.
If it helps, practice in private beforehand. If you try to take charge and fail, that’s going to turn off whoever you’re trying to go out with. It’ll give you the energy of a little boy trying on his dad’s jacket. It might be cute, but it won’t get you anywhere romantically.
Now, picture this: you’re at a bar or a party. You see a gorgeous Colombian woman. So what do you do? You pick your jaw up from the floor, take a deep breath to steady your nerves, and then you make your approach. And you’re successful because you followed the tips listed above.
