Have You Met Me? A Guide To Making A Move On Women
Don’t you wish you could approach a woman with the confidence that whatever you do is going to get her attention?
That might be asking for a little much. But there are things you can do to tip the odds in your favor.
But what if making a move on women isn’t something that you’ve got a lot of experience in? Or maybe while this isn’t your first rodeo, you want to add a little spice to the whole endeavor?
You don’t want to just approach her and offer to buy her a drink and pay her a compliment. Anyone can do that. You want to make a game of it and have fun while you’re chatting a woman up. You want her attention but you want to get it in a unique way.
So before approaching women, you got to have a plan. You know the basics of approaching a woman: be confident, stand tall, and all that stuff. But it’s the moment after the approach that you’ll need to polish.
Approaching Women in Unique Ways
So what kind of plays can you make to spice things up when you’re trying to flirt? These things have to be interesting, but not obvious. You still need to come off your approach not looking like a try-hard.
Well, here’s a few things you can do to get the ball rolling.
Drop your keys
No, dropping your keys isn’t some metaphor for something. So how is dropping your keys supposed to work for you? It’s definitely an unorthodox move, but think about it: everyone’s got keys. And everyone drops their keys. As soon as a person hears that telltale jingle-jangle of their keys crashing to the floor, they’ll look down.
What is she going to see when she hears that jingle-jangle? Your hand reaching for your keys. How does this work out for you? Well, the ball’s in your court and now you’ve got her attention and it’s up to you what you do with it.
Play an instrument
If you’re at a place that allows for it, try playing an instrument. Here’s the thing about musicians: they’re hot. For one reason or another, people generally find musicians to be really hot. So if you can present yourself as a musician, then you’re also going to be perceived as hot.
Plus, if you play the guitar, you can draw attention to your hands. A lot of women find hands sexy. Not to mention that being able to play an instrument displays a command of rhythm and timing.
Use a wingman
In dating, a wingman is a friend that helps you flirt with a person. Sometimes, it can be as simple as them talking you up to the object of your desire. If you’re going this route, try to have a female friend do it. Women tend to trust each other more than they trust men.
But other times it can be a little more elaborate. One unique way in which you can use a wingman is to have him play the villain. Have them hit on the woman you want, but make sure they’re creepy about it and not charming because being charming would defeat their purpose.
Then, once she’s been sufficiently creeped out by your wingman, you can step in and chase him, being her knight in shining armor. This also makes you appear macho and dominant.
Keep in mind that if the flirtation turns into a long-term relationship, then you will have to come clean about it.
Flirting 101: Tease her a little
Do you know how some little boys tease the girls that they have a crush on? Colloquially, it’s known as pulling pigtails. What does this have to do with approaching women? Because pulling pigtails can still, sometimes, work when you’re an adult who’s flirting with a stranger.
The trick, however, is not to be too harsh about it. If you pick at her insecurity, that’s going to kill whatever romantic mood you’re trying to set. And don’t overdo it either as there’s a fine line between playful teasing and borderline harassment. Instead, be playful about it and even a little self-deprecating to even the playing field, so to speak.
Note that this isn’t the same as negging, which is when a person insults someone else with the aim of manipulating them into seeking their approval. This is good-natured ribbing, like the kind that happens between friends.
Dance like someone’s watching
In countries like Colombia, dancing is an important part of the culture. In countries where dance isn’t a part of the culture, it’s still an important part of making a move on women.
So if you find yourself in a place with a dance floor and there’s a beautiful woman that you want to approach, put on your (metaphorical) dancing shoes and cut a rug. Much like playing an instrument, being able to dance shows a control of rhythm and timing, with the bonus of showing off physical dexterity.
Paint (or draw) a picture
Do you have any kind of artistic skill? If you do, then you can put them to good use when approaching women.
So, how does your artistic skill help you when making a move on women? You can draw her a picture. You don’t have to carry an easel and a paintbrush with you everywhere you go, but napkins and pens are pretty compact and are surely more portable than an easel and brushes.
What do you draw? Well, you can draw a pretty landscape. Or you can draw the woman herself. Just make sure it’s presentable and present it to her.
Be direct
There’s a lot to be said about creativity. It can help you stand out. After all, a beautiful woman could have any number of men flirting with her. They may approach her in a variety of ways, but a lot of them will try to be coy about it.
So being direct when making a move on women can help you stand out. Plus, some women like it when a man is direct. Some people see it as honesty and honesty’s a desirable trait in a partner.
There are a lot of ways in which a man can go about approaching women. He can be creative with his flirting or he can be direct when making a move on women. The point is that if a man – if you – want to find a romantic relationship, then you have to make a move. You can’t get to your destination without taking the first step.
